Growth through Change- The #5 Things I Learned in 2015

It’s been a year since the start of my blog and shared my 2015 Resolution goals. It’s been a truly eye opening year! Many goals were accomplished, but along the way I learned some things about myself. I was reminded about my inner strength and perseverance, but also had many old fears and insecurities rear their ugly head; leading to a fulfilling yet, emotionally challenging year.

Setting goals and publicly striving for more, it leads to growth and discovery. Here are the top things I learned in 2015!

#1- The Importance of Setting Goals and Making a Planning

If you’ve heard the saying, “Failing to plan, is planning to fail,” it is incredibly true. I had many goals I wanted to accomplish over the year; fitness goals, personal relationship goals, and organization goals. Many were accomplished, but many were not…. At the start of the year I made a monthly calendar that included all of my “To Do’s,” but I found that there really weren’t enough hours in the day (with 3 children to care for) to get to everything most days; so I needed to prioritize. At first I was discouraged when I wasn’t be able to get to everything, BUT I realized that having a schedule and planning when I was going to accomplish my tasks resulted in getting A LOT more done than had I not planned to begin with.

Until you get into a routine of setting goals, developing a plan and then sticking to it…. it can be overwhelming; but it’s worth the effort.

Admittedly, I slacked a bit on my organization goals. I was able to make some good progress and I will be making that a priority again this year. I was, however, able to meet my fitness goals for the year and, making date nights a priority with my husband (almost every month), was great since we had a crazy busy year!

#2- Only You have Control of YOU!

This has become my personal motto! Not just to keep myself motivated to stick to my workout schedule and nutrition plan, but also with helping me manage my anxiety issues. I’ve mentioned in previous posts that it’s a struggle I have had to deal with most of my life and I’ve wanted to share about this more, but I haven’t quite gotten up the courage to let that heavy, dark side of me out.

Simply reminding myself that ultimately only I have control of me and my life has been a huge help. Life and circumstances are something that every person needs to deal with. We can get weighed down by outside negative influences, inner struggles or a hectic busy life; or we can remember that we DO have CONTROL! Choose to be positive, choose to take action (on your own personal goals & dreams) and choose to have gratitude for the things in your life.

#3- Technology and the Need to Disconnect!

I knew this prior to starting this blog, but after spending added time on a computer, on social media and researching now forms of social media (Twitter, Instagram and so on), I was often left feeling a need to detach and disconnect! One of the reasons I decided to stay home and leave my career was because I didn’t like being at a computer all the time. Now, as a mother, in a world that is packed full of technology distractions, I have found more than ever a need to disconnect. I want to try and show my children that we shouldn’t depend on technology in our day to day lives. It offers many benefits and is a necessity in today’s day in age for school and work, BUT it is a distraction from the world and people right in front of you.

#4- I am a Private Person

The biggest discovery for me during this year was to realize that I am really a pretty private person. This surprised me and probably surprises those of you who know me well! I’m the type of person who will talk your ear off and over share at times; but I do that with my tight inner circle. Sharing my life with the world, honestly, I found it is not something I fully enjoyed. It brought out old insecurities and made my anxiety levels sky rocket; It is a pretty one-sided medium. It’s been fulfilling to share, but I don’t know if it will ever be something I love to do in this type of format. I much prefer a face to face genuine connection.

#5- Very few things in life are easy, but the things that take effort are worth it!

Setting goals and sharing my successes and failures was a challenge. Going through my own day to day struggles with anxiety and depression battles most of the year was hard. But I didn’t use them as an excuse, I used them as my reason to preserver, and I can say that I grew in many ways. It was a year of hard work, self discovery, struggles and accomplishment. It was the good, the bad, the ugly and the amazing all rolled into one! I’m glad I pushed for more and shared along the way. It was a great experience of growth through change!

Going into 2016 I have set new goals that make me feel excited, scared and totally out of my league. It will be a tough 2016, but I am going to make it another incredible year because only I have control of my success and my life.

If you want to live your best life, to be a better you (not a new you; but your best, authentic self), then I encourage you to push for more. Take on a new challenge or follow a dream. It will be hard and you’ll likely face negativity and doubt that you’ll need to power through; but making changes to live a more fulfilling life is worth it. And as I say to myself on a daily basis, “Only YOU have CONTROL of YOU!”

Until next time……Thea 🙂

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Simple, Healthy Spaghetti Sauce

I have always been a big pasta fan! Family dinners growing up often consisted of my Dad’s pasta sauce, more than one helping and a few pieces of Italian bread.  Surprisingly, we’re not Italian!

Over the years, as I’ve gotten older, carbohydrates, large portion sizes, and 3 pregnancies had really hit the waistline!! I switched from traditional pasta to wheat pasta; and recently I developed a huge love for Spaghetti Squash. Seriously, it’s soooo good! I also made adjustments to the Sauce I was using and thought I would share this simple, yet healthy recipe.

What you’ll Need:

  • Olive Oil (for cooking)
  • 1 Pepper (any color)
  • 1 Onion (red or sweet)
  • 1- 14 oz. can Diced Tomatoes (plain or with seasonings)
  • Italian Seasoning
  • Minced Garlic
  • 1 Jar Organic Spaghetti Sauce (I used Pellicano’s)

**This is a chunky vegetable sauce, but you can add 1 pound ground beef or ground turkey to make it a meat sauce and add some protein.**

Step 1: Diced the Pepper and Onion.

Step 2: Saute the vegetables in Olive Oil with 1 tsp minced Garlic (1-2 cloves) and 1 tsp Italian Seasoning. Cook until softened.

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Step 3: Add the can of diced tomatoes. Let cook 1-2 minutes then add the jar of Spaghetti Sauce and simmer for about 5 minutes.

 

Step 4: Serve over Pasta of your choice, or as I mentioned, my new favorite Spaghetti Squash. Enjoy!!

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Condensed Recipes Details

Ingredients:

  • Olive Oil (for cooking)
  • 1 Pepper (any color)
  • 1 Onion (red or sweet)
  • 1- 14 oz. can Diced Tomatoes (plain or with seasonings)
  • Italian Seasoning
  • Minced Garlic
  • 1 Jar Organic Spaghetti Sauce (I used Pellicano’s)

**This is a chunky vegetable sauce, but you can add 1 pound ground beef or ground turkey to make it a meat sauce and add some protein.**

  1. Diced the Pepper and Onion.
  2. Saute the vegetables in Olive Oil with 1 tsp minced Garlic (1-2 cloves) and 1 tsp Italian Seasoning. Cook until softened.
  3. Add the can of diced tomatoes. Let cook 1-2 minutes then add the jar of Spaghetti Sauce and simmer for about 5 minutes.
  4. Serve over Pasta of your choice, or as I mentioned, my new favorite Spaghetti Squash. Enjoy!!

 

Until next time……Thea 🙂

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Recognition (2 awards) and a Few Things About Me

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What great support there is in the blogging world!! I was recently nominated for the Sisterhood of the World Bloggers award by my friend and fellow blogger Nicole at Mommy Talk! It reminded me that I totally got lost in the chaos of life and never thanked AND recognized another award I was nominated for. Shruti at DeepLifeInsights nominated me for the Liebster Award back on March 1st!! So Thank you BOTH so very much for your support and thoughtful nominations!!

Both of these nominations come with an assignment to answer a few questions and to share the love and nominate other bloggers! You will see the answers to my questions below along with who I have nominated for the Sisterhood of the World Bloggers award!

  1. What’s your biggest challenge as a blogger? Honestly, I worry about everything! Is my grammar correct, is my post too long/short, and mostly, does anyone care what I have to say?
  2. What has been your greatest success so far in life? Being a Mom and wife! I put most of my effort and energy into raising my 3 young children and supporting my very amazing and hard-working husband.
  3. What made you start blogging? I started my blog to document my 2015 Resolution Goals. It’s evolved since I started and really I don’t think I have a niche like a lot of bloggers do. I post about whatever is on my mind; motherhood, fitness, recipes and so on.
  4. Which blog post is your favorite? Please provide a link. It’s a tie for me! My first vulnerable post was The Important of a Positive Inner Monologue, I cried writing it multiple times and it’s an important message I wanted to share about the impact of our own thoughts. The other is Respecting my Postpartum Body; another vulnerable post where I even included pictures of myself ready-to-pop pregnant and current pictures of my very average body! The feedback from moms struggling to love their bodies after babies was worth putting myself out there!
  5. If you could meet one blogger in person, who would it be? The Scary Mommy blogger. She has a lot of strong opinions on things. Some I agree with and some I don’t. I think it would be fun to discuss hot topics with her. I like a good conversation and debate! LOL
  6. What kind of music do you listen to? I have a pretty eclectic taste in music! I like almost anything but I’m not a huge country fan; even though over the past couple years it’s been growing on me a little. My favorite artists/bands include; Coldplay, Nine Inch Nails, Foo Fighters, Dave Matthews Band and I really enjoy classical music during the dreary fall and winter days.
  7. What’s your favorite dessert? Anything involving chocolate. If I had to pick ONE….peanut butter pie!
  8. Which social media do you like best to support your blog? Facebook, twitter or Pinterest? Facebook, only because I am a newbie to Twitter and a total virgin to Pinterest….I think I should get more involved on them but the time….?
  9. What’s your dream vacation spot? With kids or without? I feel like I’ve been on my dream vacation. My husband and I vacationed in Tahiti for our honeymoon. We island jumped, staying on the main Island a few nights, then Moorea for a few doing excursions, and lastly Bora Bora in an over water bungalow. BUT our next dream vacation we want to take, probably without kids, would be to maybe Scotland/Italy/France?
  10. What are you most passionate about in life? Fitness! I love to play sports, run, workout in any way. Working out is the best medicine! It’s free therapy, helps you feel better about yourself and keeps you looking your best!

Now I get to pass on the love to some great bloggers I know! I nominate the following:

I would like each one of you to answer the questions below, and also link your post back to me so I can see your answers!! Then pick 5 more people who you would like to nominate, and come up with 10 new questions of your own! Can’t wait to learn more about you all!

  1. How long have you been blogging?
  2. What was your most popular post? (include a link) And was it also your favorite?
  3. What’s your favorite vacation spot?
  4. What is your favorite hobby (outside of blogging)?
  5. Do you have any special talents?
  6. Who is your biggest inspiration in life? And why?
  7. What is your favorite TV show?
  8. What is your goal with blogging?
  9. What is your biggest regret in life? If you have any.
  10. What is your greatest success in life so far? (had to steal this one from Nicole)

Thank you again to Nicole and Shruti for your nominations!!

Until next time…. Thea 🙂

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Feedback Needed: What type of posts do you like best?

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I want to thank everyone who has taken the time to read and follow my blog. Your support has meant so much to me! Putting myself out there has proven to be challenging, therapeutic and humbling to say the least.

I’ve found that even though I greatly enjoy sharing my posts with you all, I am discovering it is VERY time consuming. Especially with all of the daily tasks of being a SAHM, and with my organization and weight loss/fitness goals. So, I thought I would “ask the people” so to speak; what types of posts do you enjoy the most? I’m going to try and stick to 2 posts a week and this will let me know what everyone is the most interested in!

Thank you so very much for your feedback!

Warmly, Thea 🙂

 

I was nominated for The One Lovely Blog Award!

I’d never heard of this until I was nominated by yummymummysblog.wordpress.com, but she was kind enough to nominate me for The One Lovely Blog Award!

Thank you very much!! As a newbie to blogging I am so honored!

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I am new and I wasn’t sure what the rules are so I have outlined them below!

  1. Thank the person nominating you and link back to them in your post
  2. Share seven things about yourself
  3. Nominate ten bloggers for the award

So, here are 7 things you might not know about me:

  1. I have 3 children ages 5, 3 and 1. They were all born via c-section. (Even though I had plans with my first to go drug free). Oh well!
  2. I love to run! It’s like therapy for me. I also love playing and watch sports; mainly soccer.
  3. I worked in sales for over 10 years before staying home. I was very good at it but got burnt out! My dream job is to become a personal trainer!
  4. I love wine and hard cider but I am finding after 3 kids I have a very low tolerance! Like 2 drink max or things get sketchy!
  5. I have an eclectic taste in music. Some of my favorite bands/musicians are Coldplay, Nine Inch Nails, Splashdown, Jose Gonzalez, Foo Fighters, Sigur Ros, Jimi Hendrix, Bob Marley and I also enjoy Classical music. I am not a fan of country though!
  6. I love to sing and have sung in many weddings and funerals over the years. My best natural talent is probably singing, but with kids it’s just not something I have, or make, much time for.
  7. My husband and I have been together for over 13 years and we will celebrate our 9 year wedding anniversary in May! It’s funny because when I was in high school I thought I wouldn’t get married until I was 30. I thought I’d get involved in music or travel the world. But I am SOOO happy that those plans didn’t happen. I love my life! My husband is my rock and my best friend; and being a Mom is the greatest blessing!

Here are the 10 Bloggers I now nominate for The One Lovely Blog Award!

  1. http://godswillnotmine.wordpress.com/
  2.  http://mamabeesimple.wordpress.com/
  3. http://thepinterestedparent.com/
  4. http://mommytime365.com/
  5. http://hellbillymama.wordpress.com/
  6. http://shrutiinsights.wordpress.com/
  7. http://truthtellermom.com/
  8. http://lovegrowsbestinatinycabin.wordpress.com/
  9. https://musingsofalondongirl94.wordpress.com/
  10. https://joetakesphotos.wordpress.com/

Thank you again yummymummysblog.wordpress.com!

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supermom…does it really exist?

Hello! I’m Thea, mother of three beautiful children ages 4, 2 and a five week old newborn. I’m starting this blog to discuss the insanely awesome and challenging life of a mom. We all strive to be supermom in this hectic and critical world we live in, but does it really exist?!? 

I’ll be discussing the many challenges and triumphs of motherhood from an average Jane’s point of view. My first goal is to lose the baby weight and get back into shape. For anyone interested….I’ll be documenting this lovely process along with photo progress pictures. Let the adventure begin!!